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A New Feature: Articles and Essays

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Learn More about Death and Dying.

The Principal Facilitator at Thanatology Café writes about a number of subjects relating to death, dying, grief, and the funeral services profession. Published on several blogs these articles have stimulated interest among people who never thought they’d be talking about the dread subject of death, and those readers and participants in local Thanatology Cafés have asked for more about the subject of thanatology; so many readers have requested copies of the Chaplain’s essays and articles that responding to every individual request has been quite a task. To make it easier for anyone interested in reading the Chaplain’s articles, he’s decided to create an online page on the Thanatology Café blog, where you can click on the essay title and either read the article online or download it. It’s that easy!

The article “Interfaith Bereavement Chaplain — An Essential Asset” is actually an article written for the benefit of funeral homes and funeral directors, and gives them a good talking-to about how they are failing to provide the bereaved with essential grief services and aftercare. It’s a must read if you are going to make pre-arrangements or are making arrangements for a loved one. Local funeral homes like Babcock Funeral Home (Ravena), especially (!) with their expensive and shoddy services, and A.J. Cunningham (Greenville and Ravena), the Capital District’s very own “factory funeral home”, Newcomer Funeral Home, could learn a lot from that articel.

The article, “Why is Funeralization Desirable and Necessary” is directed more to the consumer than to the funeral director, although funeral directors could benefit considerably from this article. It focuses mainly on the benefits of the traditional funeral for survivors and mourners. It’s a must-read for anyone who is or will be involved in funeral arrangements — that means everyone!

One of the most interesting articles is “Plain Talk About Cremation,” which is a real eye-opener for anyone considering cremation as a final disposition of their mortal remains.

Those articles and more are available on the Thanatology Cafe Blog page, “Articles & Essays.”

Click this link to go directly to New Feature: Articles and Essays.

As soon as we have it, we’ll also be publishing the September and October Thanatology Café program for the RCS area. Stay tuned and stay informed!

Please let me know how you like the Chaplain’s new service.

Happy reading! The Editor

Happy reading!
The Editor

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Thanatology Café at the RCS Community Library: Registration Form

Please Note: We have just been informed by the RCS Community library that the Thanatology Café sign-up sheets at the RCS Community Library are kept in a binder behind the check-out desk. You must ask a staff member for the book to sign up. 

register-nowWe recently announced an exciting new program coming to the RCS Community Library. The program, which plans to meet regularly monthly and will be supplemented by extraordinary meetings for smaller groups to discuss special topics focusing on death, dying, coping, grief, and death-related topics, has published its Initial Registration Form that can be completed before the Saturday, April 9, 2016, session at the RCS Community Library, from 2:00 – 4:00 p.m.

The organizers encourage interested participants to download and printout the form and to bring it the the April 9 session; that will save time and will leave more time for the conversations.

Sign-up sheets are also available at the RCS Community library, but interested persons can also R.S.V.P. their intention to attend by sending an e-mail to thanatology.cafe@gmail.com.

We are informed that local churches, fire and rescue departments, police departments, EMS, schools and local funeral directors have been contacted and urged to send representatives.

It’s an important program and will deal with a subject that really needs to be talked about more. It promises to be an outstanding opportunity for sharing, learning and information. Don’t miss it.

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Initial Registration Form

Of course, if you have any questions, please e-mail the organizers at thanatology.cafe@gmail.com. They will get right back to you with an answer.

Please click the Register Now image to display and download or print out the Initial Registration from, fill it out as completely as possible, and bring it with you to the Thanatology Cafe session on April 9, 2016, at the RCS Community Library, 95 Main Street, Ravena, New York. The session starts promptly at 2 p.m. so please be on time.

And in the meantime, visit the Thanatolgy Café blog.

Well be there and we hope you will be too; we are looking forward to meeting and chatting with you on April 9th!

The Editor

The Editor

 

 

It Shouldn’t Be a One-Man Show…Where are the Rest of You?

One single resident of Ravena steps out and creates a place for the kids 

A One-Man-Show Won't Work

A One-Man-Show Won’t Work

To Get the Best Out of It We Have to Team Up

Coming together is a beginning. Keeping together is progress. Working together is success.

Coming together is a beginning.
Keeping together is progress.
Working together is success.

In the meantime one single Ravena resident takes his savings and his time, gets a second job to do something for the kids. Something the kids really need: a place to go other than the street! And they get rides home after the club closes…in his care, not in a Coeymans police vehicle. While the village of Ravena is shelling out hundreds of thousands of dollars for a handful of special friends, and the town of Coeymans is busy looking the other way while leaving youth services to the Coeymans Police Department, one single resident of Ravena steps out and creates a place for the kids: the Ravena-Coeymans Youth and Teen Activities Center (RCYTAC).

Parents and residents of Ravena-Coeymans: When’s the last time you visited the RCYTAC? I visited just the other day and I was floored to see how nice it is. I was floored to see a lot of teens who I know personally enjoying the place. Those kids actually stopped, greeted me and were happy to see me there. They actually looked, well, happy! The disk jockey’s a teen, the food service staff are teens, the teens learning how to take charge and socialize. As I was visiting, kids were strolling in but none were coming out so I assumed that they were involved in one of the many available activities…all of them monitored and supervised, mind you!

While I was standing outside with Mr Michael Fisher, creater of the RCYTAC, I was amazed when a parent came up and asked if she could donate the refreshments from her son’s grad party, because he decided that he didn’t want a party and that the RCYTAC should have it. The parent also made a fairly generous cash contribution for the kids. That same parent, a psychologist and author of children’s books, is planning to do poetry and literature workshops at the RCYTAC! Question: What are YOU doing?

I have one single question, parents, residents: Where the hell are the rest of you????

Why is it you’d risk leaving your kids unsupervised, in their rooms, on Facebook, being evil? Why wouldn’t you give them a ride to the RCYTAC where they can socialize in a healthy environment?

Why is it you’d risk your teen’s wandering around dark streets and parks at risk of life and limb? Why wouldn’t you give them a ride to the RCYTAC where they can socialize safely?

Why is it you don’t enjoy some personal time to recuperate without the unnecessary stress of either knowing where your kids are or, worse still, not knowing?!? Why wouldn’t you give them a ride to the RCYTAC where they can socialize in a healthy environment?

Why is it you’d risk having the Coeymans Police, the Albany County Sheriff, or the State Police bringing your kid home or bringing your the news of his or her arrest, bail, court appearances—or worse, news of a tragedy— when you could have supported the RCYTAC with some time and a couple of bucks donation?

Tens of thousands, hundreds of thousands of your tax dollars are being spent on worthless projects like a village fitness center

Why is it you sit back oblivious to the fact that tens of thousands, hundreds of thousands of your tax dollars are being spent on worthless projects like a village fitness center that is exclusive and unwelcoming to many in the community, while youth programs and services are ignored? Why aren’t you demanding that some of that money be donated no strings attached to the RCYTAC?!? No strings attached! We don’t want it to become a Coeymanazi brainwashing camp, do we? Why aren’t you parents and residents appearing at village and town board meetings screaming bloody murder that nothing is being done for youth…well almost nothing, the Coeymans police seem to like arresting them. Don’t you realize that if the kids are off the streets and not looking for something to do, they’ll likely stay out of mischief?prison kid

Ravena Coeymans Selkirk teens and youth are tomorrow’s consumers and voters; If you mobilze NOW and get your parents to support your projects, you can move on local government and get those geezers to support your RCYTAC. BE YOUR OWN RCS CHAMPIONS!!!

Teen Work is Team Work

Teen Work is Team Work

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Ravena-Coeymans-Selkirk teens: Why would you stick with street friends who will only get you into a mess of trouble? Why don’t you get smart and mobilize for your own good? Michael Fisher is handing you the opportunity to do something really good, important, responsible, independent for you and your generation at the Teen Center. Mr Fischer is handing you the opportunity to show that you can become a part of something great, you can be your own leaders, you can create a community you can be proud of, and you can empower yourselves and your friends to get the attention of local residents and government to take an interest in your welfare, in your RCYTAC, to support Mr Michael Fisher’s vision for RC youth. Ravena Coeymans Selkirk teens and youth are tomorrow’s consumers and voters; If you mobilze NOW and get your parents to support your projects, you can move on local government and get those geezers to support your RCYTAC. Be fair! Don’t make Mr Fisher do it all on his dime…he just can’t do it without your help and support.

Really Bad Move!

Really Bad Move!

As scary as the girls’ Facebook exchanges were, some good points were made such as: Being bad is not cool because it will come back to bite you in future, when you’ll really need to prove who and what you are. Beating someone up is not cool, it’s criminal, and it’s not going to get you a job or an education; it’s going to get you a reputation and a bad one at that and one that’s likely to follow you wherever you go. But if you are a leader now and to take the initiative to work for community, that’s going to serve you well for the rest of your lives. Be smart…be leadership…be champions!

Why is it you are sitting there thinking that your kids are getting the most out of the school district budget? Are you in denial or just plain stupid? Have you examined the school budget to see just how much of it is “for the kids”? You might want to do that one day. And don’t be misled by the dumbing down of the curriculum or the fancy-sounding names they give to programs that are there just to enrich the staff with extra pay. Ask yourself why an athletics coach or a teacher is being paid 4-6 times the per capita income of RC residents or 2-3x the average household income of a RC household? Then ask yourself why you haven’t made a substantial donation to the RCYTAC for the valuable service of keeping your kids safe (the school system doesn’t seem to be able to do that), saving you bail money, and even possibly saving you funeral expenses. Blunt, but real.

Empowered Youth

Empowered Youth

We support what is good for this community and most especially what is good for our greatest hope and asset: our teens and youth. We adults who have the good sense and vision realize that some day we are going to have to depend on today’s youth when they are making the decisions and running things. And the kind of people I want to see running things for me when I need them are the kind of teens and youth I saw at the Ravena-Coeymans Youth and Teen Activity Center.

Support the Teen Center The Editor

Support the Teen Center
The Editor

 

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Posted by on June 26, 2013 in Accountability, Albany, Albany County Department of Children, Albany County Department of Children, Youth, and Families, Albany County Executive, Albany County Sheriff Department, Anti-Bullying Law, Bryan Rowzee, Capital District, Coeymans, Coeymans Police Department, Coeymans Town Board, Coin Drop, Community, Community Safety, Community Support, Concession Stand, Crime Victim and Sexual Violence Center, Dawn Rogers, Dignity Act, Dignity for All Students Act, Dr Alan McCartney, Dr Alan R. McCartney, Fair Play, Fellowship, Fundraiser, Fundraising, Greater Coeymans Ravena Area Community Business Group, Greene County, Gregory Darlington, Hannaford, Hudson Valley, Jeff Lukens, John M. Vadney, John T. Bruno, Judith Felsten, Judy Sylvester, Lazlo Polyak, Martin Case, Marty Case, Mayor Bruno, Melanie Lekocevic, Michael Fisher, Monitoring, Nancy Biscone-Warner, Nancy Warner, National Bank of Coxsackie, New Baltimore, New York, New York State, New York State Education Department, Non-Profit, Not-for-Profit, NYS Assembly, NYS Senate, NYSED, Pete Lopez, Peter Masti, PriceChopper, Ravena, Ravena Coeymans Selkirk, Ravena Coeymans Youth and Teen Activities Center, Ravena Fitness Center, Ravena Health and Fitness Center, Ravena Village Board, RC Teen Center, RCS Champions, RCS Gold Team, Responsibility, SABIC Innovative Plastics, Selkirk, Smalbany, Stephen Flach, Teen Center, Teen Deaths, Teen Pregnancy, Thomas A. Boehm, Thomas E. Dolan, Tkaczyk, Tom Dolan, Transparency, William Bailey

 

It’s Important to You…We can do better for our teens and youth!

Everyone these Days Seems to Believe that They’re “Entitled,”
That they Have a Right to Something, Everything, Without Work or Investment.

That’s The American LIE!

They'll see through your lies!

They’ll see through your lies!

And Where that Bullshit Frame of Mind Came From Nobody Seems To Care But It’s A Slippery Slope and Loaded with Unpleasant Surprises

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The fact is, parents may think they’re giving their kids what the kids need but the parents don’t really have a clue. Do they? The parents are constantly pushing (their kids and government), demanding (of the kids and of administrators) more, More, MORE! And so on that idiotic, unrealistic example, the kids want more, More, MORE and there’s soon less, Less, LESS to give—at least less of anything worth having, that is. So, the parents came from a disposable society and culture and their kids have learned the lesson well. Where does it all lead, this mindset of individualism, “my rights”, “I need”, “Whatever!” “If it feels good, do it!” Well, Ravena found out this past week when a 20-year old forced a young girl to “pleasure” him—at knife-point! Is that what it’s coming to? I want and you’re going to give. Is that what you parents are teaching your children?

Sure, you go out and “realize yourselves,” advance your careers and have the jobs because you want your kids to have a better life. Lies! Stop deceiving yourselves! You grew up in a liberal, post-modern world that emphasized individualism, false-egos, materialism. You have become the drones of capitalism and the 1% and don’t even have the brains to realize it! The lights are on but nobody’s home in Brainville! Duh-ha-ha! The feminists have scandalized womanhood and motherhood; the women have degraded themselves and as a consequence have destroyed American manhood. Just look at some of the male characters portrayed on prime-time TV. Fat, stupid, humiliated. American Idol, reality TV…and you all eat it up, living other people’s lives and not realizing that you’re forgetting your own lives and are becoming increasingly…ugly!

This ain't better when you're 16!

This ain’t better when you’re 16!

So, that’s the reproductive-age adults in our midst. Depressed, overweight, hateful, ignorant, and reproducing a generation of lonely, overfed, over-stimulated, precociously hormonally overdosed (thanks to the food industry’s profit projections), lonely, frightened, aggressive, angry children…children who think they are adults because they’re forced by adults to think that way…it’s easier for the adults when they can manipulate their children into thinking they can fend for themselves while the female and male breeding partners—please note I did not write “parents”— are off “realizing” their “selves.” 

Here’s an exchange on unsupervised Facebook activity by a group of middle-school girls (Names have been changed, of course!):who will save us

Jessy: … your the one that needs to grow up, say it to our faces not on facebook…. when you apply for a job they check your facebook, this will come back to haunt youJ

Nancy: Why are you doing this? If they are not going to throw the first punch them be the better person and stop. Your what 13? You shouldn’t be fighting. If they wanna act stupid then let them but do not go down to their level because your making yourself angry just thinking about it and runing your summer. Do you want to do that? Stop the fighting. Seriously.

Angie: no it wont jess u said u wanted to kill me that is against the law u told me how u would do it too so yea dont fuck with me or my family.

Jessy: Nancy, i dont wanna fight her but she keeps sayin this stuff, the truth behind it was that i was losing my temper, and i cant control myself under my temper. and tati that is such a lie i never said that, telling the story from fifth grade/ getting punched in the collar bone, wont kill you for one and for two i said leave me alone before someone gets hurt, implying anyone including myself, example i punched a metal door and have a huge bruise on my wrist

Angie: thats ur own faut i told u not to say it u still said im done i mean idk if i can ever trust u again i mean like my mom sent me to albany

Jessy: not to say what? and idrc if you dont trust me, idrc if we stay friends, just one less person i have to put on my list of people to deal with… i dont really need more than the four or five friends i have

Angie: and ur gonna lose them too if u aint careful

Nancy: Then you need to look for help if you can’t control your temper. Idc who started, idc who wants to fight who. Tati ik you are my cousin but both of you guys GROWN UP!!!!!! Damn, you aren’t little kids. You are teenagers.

Angie: love u too nicki

Jessy: tati just let it go. i am. cuz i dont really care anymore, this is just a fight over i dont eben remember, that i dont even care who wins…

Jessy: so lets just end it

Angie: fine are we friends tho

Nancy: Then stop fighting. Leave this girl alone and girl leave my cousin alone, grow up and stop this. Tati jobs and colleges do go through your Facebook and won’t hire people because of certain things posted.

Angie: idc right now nicki me and her be talking

Nancy: Ok do you not know how to talk now? “Me and her be talking?” Tati if you guys “be” talking then don’t be fighting. There’s no point of it. Its not necessary.

Prissy*: I don’t want to see any more fighting on here

Prissy*: OR ELSE

Angie: or ealse what

Prissy*: jobs will check your facebook, like Nicki said

Nancy: Colleges do to! No matter if your 13 or if you remove the comments. You out something on the internet and it is there FOREVER!

Prissy*: There is no need for this fighting

Prissy*: you can never take it back! pages are cached. (stored)

Prissy*: Good, I hope this is over

* It must be noted that “Prissy” is an adult. Wouldn’t you reasonably expect an adult to have warned parents or teachers of this brewing assault?

Well, readers, it was NOT all over…just a couple of days after this exchange took place on Facebook Jessy was brutally attacked, injured, by another girl at the RCS middle school.

So, what subsurface messages did you read in the exchange between the girls? So what impressed you most? The anger, the aggression, the difference between the girls? Did you catch the anxiety, suspicion of the Internet? How about the language? What does that tell you about where these future parents, women, taxpayers, decision-makers are going to be ten years from now? Where were the parents when all of this was brewing? Where were the teachers and teachers’ aids when the brutality took place?

 We may be overly optimistic, but this is what we predict.

We may be overly optimistic, but this is what we predict.

The schools are not “for the kids”, they’re for the teachers!

d-The schools, no matter how advanced your self-deception may be, are not there to parent, and they’re doing a pretty lousy job (judging by the language in the Facebook exchange) of teaching, too! In fact, no matter what lies you are telling yourselves—and believing—the millions ($41.2 for 2013-14) you are shelling out for school budgets are not “for the kids;” those millions are for the teachers, the coaches, the administrators. [Editor’s Note: Voters just approved a $41.2 million school budget for 2013-2014, voted-in three teacher clique lackies James Latter, Jason Hyslop and shyster Patrick Brown (husband of Mary Partridge-Brown, “close friend” of NYSUT (teachers union) rep Matt Miller; voters re-elected a perv, James Latter, to the board. And you think there’s no conspiracy, no corruption going on in the school system?]

Still think there’s no conspiracy, no corruption? Well let’s look at an example from real RCS CSD in-crowd life:  Ron Racey, an RCS CSD athletics staff member is retiring and was making more than $120,000 a year out of the school budget monies…plus benefits! (That’s almost 3x the average household income in the town of Coeymans, by the way!) One man in a non-essential position on the school payroll making 3x more than the average household [Editor’s note: that’s household, not person! The average per capita income in 2010 was $21,686.] Most instructional staff in the RCS CSD are making 2-3x the average household income and 4-6x the average per capita income of RCS residents. Now, do you really think that the schools and the school budgets are “for the kids” or for the teachers and administrators? Think about that again and then think about what kind of morals and ethics the kids have, what their social skills are like, what their outlooks on life are, how they talk, and how they interact. You’ll likely come to the same conclusion we have: The schools are not for the kids, they’re for the teachers!

The village of Ravena budgeted more than $115,000 in the village 2013-14 budget to fund the Ravena Health and Fitness Center…

Bruno-Warren-Deluca Village of Ravena

Bruno-Warner-Deluca
Village of Ravena

We recently reported how the village of Ravena purchased more than $40,000 in used workout machines and equipment from a “friend of the Ravena village board” without public inputs or comment. That’s $40,000 of Ravena taxpayer’s money for junk. In that same article we exposed how the village of Ravena budgeted more than $115,000 in the village 2013-14 budget to fund the Ravena Health and Fitness Center now located in the former space occupied by the RCS Community Library. That’s $115,000 of taxpayer money to fund a Heap and Fatness Center modeled on the same incompetent scheme of the one that failed in Ravena several years ago, when there was actually some businesses left and some residents left in the village. So that’s $115,000 for something that the village does not need at all and will probably be a waste of resources. Well, a waste for some, but it’s a gold mine for others: Mayor John T. Bruno and his hatchet-woman Nancy Biscone-Warner must have owed the Delucas or their godfather for some favor because Guess Who?  got “appointed” to be the director of the Ravena Heap and Fatness Center: Cathy Deluca, the very manager who managed the failed fitness center in Ravena. [Editor’s Note:  Don’t forget this in March for village elections,  when it’s election time and mayor Bruno is running for re-election, and in November, when his minions Martin Case or William Bailey are running for town offices!]

So here’s the breakdown of the kid’s situation in Ravena-Coeymans: You go on Facebook unsupervised and tear each other apart in pseudo-English, threatening to do serious damage to each other (and these are the middle-school girls!). Then you go to school where the administrators are under a state mandated requirement to supervise and oversee students to avoid bullying and to ensure the safety of the kids…and you get the living shite kicked out of you. While all of this is going on the village of Ravena in it’s great wisdom is shelling out more than $115,000 for a Heap and Fatness Center, ignoring the problems in its parks and on the streets, ignoring its young people while padding the palms of its supporters and friends. Just down the street a young woman is being held at knifepoint and sexually abused, and the police stop a drunken father with his teenage daughter in the car (he’s just out of jail, on a suspended license, and under the influence) and allow him to drive on. Voters approve more than $41 million dollars for the RCS CSD school budget, while paying teaching and athletics staff 4-6x the average per capita income of RC residents! And the kids are still being brutalized, still speak English worse than illegal aliens, and are walking the streets or getting raped in the park! Are you really following all of this? WAKE THE HELL UP, PEOPLE!

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WTF! RC Teen Center Coin Drop in Glenmont!

Update: 1 Jan 13. Mr Michael Fisher has responded to this article. We have published his response in its entirety with no edits in the Comments section. Please read all the comments to this article.

We’re All Territorial and We Do Have To Consider Appearances and Impressions, Don’t We?

Ravena-Coeymans Teen Center Collecting in Glenmon?!?

Ravena-Coeymans Teen Center Collecting in Glenmont?!?

So what do you think you would say or your neighbors would say if, at the Four Corners junction on 9W in Ravena, the Bethlehem Center Sports Association were to set up shop, stop traffic, delay your trip home, while they’re collecting money from your RCS neighbors to fund their Bethlehem sports agenda? You’d probably say to yourself, “What in hell are they doing here? Get back to where you belong!” It’s only natural.

Bethlehem Center, NY (December 29, 2012) But that’s the situation we observed when approaching a long line of stopped cars and noting some fluorescent figures moving about in the intesection at Bethlehem Center at 9W and  Glenmont Road. We were doing errands and anxious to get home and thought to ourselves, “Oh, NO! Not an accident!” As the traffic inched towards the light we say that it wasn’t an accident but several people stopping cars and holding out containers. Now I thought, “Who are these people stopping traffic at a busy intersection, causing this back-up and delay?” Then a sloppily painted sign caught my eye and I felt really embarrassed: “Support the RC Teen Center!

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More Child Abuse: “Get out and push the bus!”

A Bus Breaks Down on the NYS Thruway on Thursday and Students are Told to “Get Out And Push The Bus”
You heard me right:
ON THE NYS THRUWAY!!!

[ UPDATE: Unofficial Information Received Today (Oct. 6, 2012) Reports that the Offending Busdriver Has Been Suspended. There is no news yet on the busdrivers involved in the abandonment of the other two students. We should expect that the two busdrivers involved in the abandonment will be suspended, and that Dawn Hunter, transportation dispatcher, be disciplined.
RCS Parents Should Demand Nothing Less!]

School Bus Rear-Ended
What if kids were pushing it?

All we can say is that busdriver made a very, very bad decision! When we put someone in charge of a vehicle and fill that vehicle up with school children, can’t we reasonably expect that that busdriver gets some screening, some training, is trained with some knowledge of emergency procedures? Well, obviously, this busdriver didn’t have the brains to know what to do and when. But to have students get out of the bus and push it off the NYS Thruway is really an extreme example of idiocy and abuse to the max!

Wouldn’t it have been smarter to get the kids to safety on the grass, out of harm’s way, put on the flashers, screw the traffic?!? Wouldn’t a normally functioning mind in such a position of responsibility prioritize what needed to be done? Let’s see: FIRST GET THE KIDS TO SAFETY! NEXT: Everything else…. But it didn’t happen that way. Why?

THIS is WHY!!!

How is it possible that not only were the kids not moved to a safe area they were actually told to get out of the bus and to push the bus! I’m at a loss for words!

One parent wants an explanation and writes to the Superintendent, Elizabeth R. Smith, Brian Bailey, principal of the high school, and the the RCS board of education:

My son [name redacted] was bused from BOCES this afternoon, when his bus broke down on the NYS Thruway he was asked to push the bus out of the road along with several other students before the police arrived. I feel as though this is a huge safety concern. Is this legal? What is being done about this? When I go to work I have to feel that RCS is protecting my son. I do not feel that right now.”

“A little over two weeks ago my son was left to walk home down Route 9W because of the confusion with the buses. When will this stop?”

[Name Withheld by Request]

What are the other parents doing about this, I wonder? Will the Coeymanazis have something to say when the board of education starts chopping heads? Where are all the loudmouths in the RCS central school district now or ever when it comes right down to disciplining school personnel who are pervs or perps or just plain stupid?

Parents!
If You Don’t Stand Up NOW and Shout,
You’re Just As NEGLIGENT!

We’ve reported in one single week the facts that a bus aide abuses a special needs child and nothing’s done about it. A child is left behind, refused bus transportation home because of an obscure policy that hadn’t even gone into effect yet. And another child who is left abandoned when he gets confused as to which bus to board, and ends up walking home on Route 9W!

THIS or WORSE

The challenge: O.K. Brian Bailey, Jennifer Houck , Elizabeth R. Smith, Whalen, Edward “Teddy” Reville, Howard “Bray” Engel, James Latter, Deluca (Cathy and Dirty-Hands Jerry), Traver, Donna Leput-Hommel (maybe you can shed a tear or two about this at the next BoE meeting?), Josephinie O’Connor (forget about your weight, maybe your father can visit the busdriver and make a false claim), R.J. D’Esposito, Misuraca, Tom Dolan, Gary Vanderzee, and the rest of you loudmouths, “It’s for the kids!” chanters, anything to say? What now, loudmouths? Maybe you can discuss the real problems on your FaceBook garbage dumps?

What are we paying these idiots for?
To kill our kids?

Isn’t it time you parents stepped up to the plate and stopped gold plating turds and admit that someone in the school system, a principal, a superintendent, a director of transportation, a busdriver SOMEONE has to be held accountable.

Isn’t it time you parents and taxpayers came to your senses and realize that it’s the Coeymanazi’s lie that makes you believe that the Board of Education has any power to discipline without an outcry from the public! YOU have to start doing something before YOUR reps on the BoE can do anything.

Isn’t it time that you learn the difference between TRUTH and lies! As long as you get your information from FaceBook sites like RCS Friends and More or the Cathy’s Coeymanazi Clucks Club, or from the tabloid rags you read, you’re DOOMED to continue to be their stoogies! Wake up, people!

 Or are you waiting to be called by the police to come and identify a body? Your choice, parents!

Drugs Kill? So Does Stupidity!
The Editor

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A Parent’s Plea…Help Me! My Child’s Been Bullied

Warning: We are not attorneys. We are not offering legal advice. We ae providing good faith information.
Please see the disclaimer at the end of this article.
If you are a student or a minor, please stay on this page and get an education in ethics and civics!

Parents Can Come Out Kicking and Punching Now. You Don’t Have to be Afraid Anymore!
If They Retaliate, Sue Them and Take Their Jobs!

The New York State Anti-Bullying Law, the Dignity for All Students Act (DASA), Went Into Full Effect on July 1, 2012.
The Law Now Makes Teachers, Principals, Administrators, School Districts Responsible and Liable for Acts of Bullying that Take Place on School Property or in the Context of School Activities. Now, In Addition to their Civil Liabilities for the Welfare of School Children, the Law Makes the Schools Co-Liable for Bullying of Students on Students,  or Teachers, TA’s, or Coaches on Students. But It’s Up to YOU, It’s YOUR Responsibility as Parents, to be Proactive and Public in Protecting Your Children!

Make the School District Accountable
It’s the Law Now!

We just received another request from a concerned RCS parent with a child or children in the RCS schools who writes [names redacted to protect the individual’s identity and to ensure confidentiality]:


The Parent’s Plea:

“Hello Im another concerned parent of RCS children …I was hoping you assist me. Simply what I am Looking for is…What lawyer is representing the [redacted] family in their suit against the RCS district? I ask since I am in the process of seeking my own legal advice for bullying. If you don’t know or feel uncomfortable disclosing that information hopefully you can suggest an attorney who isn’t so-called “corrupted”.
“Also would you be able to direct me to any other possible resources out there that may be able to help me?
“I have followed the “chain of command” regarding the bullying since October 2011, teacher- guidance – principal – superintendent – CSE – teacher- principal -superintendent &  recently a email to the board (no replies to the email).
“Simply put .. I’m at a large brick wall of a dead end- and need direction, to insure the safety of my child.”


Our Response:

Your original message was forwarded to us by one of our contributors whom you contacted with your request but did not have the information you needed. We hope we can offer you some help in this response.

No child deserves to be hurt socially, emotionally or psychologically, least of all in our schools!

First of all, any concerned parent would be well advised to seek out other concerned parents and to join together to seek representation as a group. First of all, a group has more backbone to pursue such a campaign, there’s “power in numbers.” Secondly, in a group, you can all share your experiences and establish a pattern of abuse and indifference by the administration, essential probative items for a good case. Thirdly, in a group you can share not only stories but also expenses. Getting individual representation might be difficult but if a group of you approach an attorney, s/he’ll have a better feel for the situation and can put together a better strategy. Fourthly, the District would be more intimidated and more prone to settle if confronted by a group of parents represented by an attorney who is ready to kick ass.

One of the problems you parents who contact us have is that you say you want to protect your children but are willing only to go half way. You want to do what you’ve been doing for years–not only you but so many others–creeping around in the shadows, trying to stay invisible, yet saying you want to stop the bullying or solve the problems. But you’ve got to stand up and come out into the light to do that.

You parents are not going to get anything done by skulking around in the shadows, not wanting your names mentioned, not wanting to tell your stories to the public, wanting to assert your rights but wanting also for someone else to carry the load for you. Sorry, that doesn’t work.

Individually, your lovely school district is going to eat you up one-by-one when you come with your complaint. You think your tax dollars are going to the children in your schools, do you? Just wait until you have an issue with the school district, that same school district who is always telling the voters, “We’re here for the kids.” But not your kids. You may have already experienced how concerned they are for the kids: did you get any response to your complaints or inquiries about the incidents you are talking about? Probably not. The RCS CSD turns into an entirely different animal when it comes to having to deal with a problem, especially when it might make them look bad. And it’s an ugly beast when it comes to responding to a complaint about a child’s welfare in the schools; that really makes them look bad. Don’t you think you should be telling the world about that?

It’s usually very unlikely that the District will respond to e-mails, they’re too dangerous. But what I do and always suggest first and foremost is that you document everything in writing in a notebook or some other way as soon as possible after an event or incident or contact. That’s very important when it comes to evidence and any hearings or court appearances. If it’s written down as soon as possible after it happens it’s 1000x better than plain old memory. Second, put all your requests into letter form, clearly stating the problem (no emotions, just the facts, please), times, dates, names, and what you want answered. Always include a reasonable request for something to be done that will make you happy or satisfy you. Then mail it to the school principal, the RCS CSD superintendent, and to the president of the board of education. Send the copy to the RCS CSD superintendent by certified mail, return receipt requested. Then you have proof you made the inquiry, proof they received it, and then proof they didn’t bother to respond.

As for sharing information about someone else’s representation or case, I’m afraid I”m not in the position to to do that. But what I would suggest is that you call the individual or drop by that individual’s home, they’re very welcoming and helpful, and talk to them about your needs and concerns. Talking directly to persons with similar problems is immensely helpful and healing. It’s worked well with many types of problems.

If you still want to go at it alone, I would suggest you contact the New York State Bar Association Lawyer Referral and Information Service at 1 (800) 342-3661 lr@nysba.org, or Department for Children, Youth and Families Programs & Services at the Child Protective Services (CPS) Hotline: 1 (800) 342-3720, tell them what you need, a ask for a recommendation for assistance in moving forward with your case.

I’d also suggest that you get out of that Democrat cesspool of political party machinery and give Pete Lopez, your NYS Assemblyman for the 127nd Assembly District (but running for the newly formed 102nd district that includes Ravena-Coeymans-Selkirk, New Baltimore are part of his district), tell him about the problems you’re having, about the response you’re getting from the District, ask for his help. Tell him this bullying problem is big here and obviously big everywhere if the legislatures of a large number of states have actually passed laws like the the Dignity for All Students Act (DASA),  New York’s “Dignity Act“! That’s why he’s there. Besides, if you hadn’t already heard, it’s an election year and the candidates will be chomping at the bit for sensitive issues to toy with.” In fact, call everyone who’s running and not part of the local political machine (that would exclude Tom Dolan who has done NOTHING with regard to helping parents with the bullying problem–he’s part of the political gang that’s part of the problem!). And you haven’t heard a peep out of the Delucas, the Bartletts, the Whalens, Engels, Revilles, Latters, Misuracas, Leput-Hommels or any of the other Coeymanazi bunch about the bullying problem. Of course not! They’re part of the system and you don’t buck your own system. And besides, they’re all out doing something ultra-important: collecting bottles. Do you get it? If it’s easy and gets them brownie points they’ll do it; if it involves getting their hands dirty and being prophets, Forget it! Just give them glory and they’ll love you for it but don’t expect much in return.

So, what I’d recommend first of all is to find like-minded allies, especially parents whose children were bullied in the past and may have graduated or left the RCS school district. They may be very willing to step out with you. Then, contact parents with children still in the RCS school district and get together, explaining how important it is to join up and step out. You’ll get nothing done if you and others like you keep hiding. You’ll never be able to say that you actually did sometihing to protect your children and some day they might actually ask you, “Why didn’t you, mom, dad? What will you answer?

Of course I will respect your request to keep our conversations private but I would also ask you to please continue to keep us updated on what you are doing and how it’s working for you. It helps us to help others in your situation or in similar situations to know how our advice is working for them.

Good luck!
The Editor, Smalbany


Teacher- and Coach-on-Student Bully

Keep in mind the types of bullying that go on in our schools includes student-on-student, teacher-on-student, coach-on-student (sometimes even teacher-on-teacher, and student-on-teacher, believe it or not)! We can talk about various types of bullying that often appear simultaneously:

  • Physical: pushing, kicking, assault with objects, etc. It occurs more frequently in primary than in secondary. But don’t be led astray by this generalization, as student’s get older, physical abuse becomes more covert, more calculated, more dangerous and symptomatic of bigger problems ahead! Research shows that bully teachers and coaches have a history of being bullied. There’s also evidence of a bullied-connection withviolent, sociopathic behavior in adults.
  • Verbal abuse and name-calling, slurs in public, highlighting physical defects, etc.. It is the most common and can leave very deep scars. Words do harm and harm deeply.  Teachers be especially aware of this in yourselves.
  • Psychological: undermine the individual’s self-esteem and foster their sense of fear. The psychological harm is really a common feature of any bullying but it is a standalone form of bullying, too.
  • Social: attempts to isolate the members of other groups, or to exclude certain persons or classmate as members of a group. Scarring. Can produce problems further down the road in the young adult and the mature adult (true for all of the bullying types!).

So, In Summary, Our Advice Is:

  • You need to be parents to your children. That’s more than just providing them with a cellphone, junk food, and a ride to the mall! You need to be a positive role model, a source of nurture and protection. Not a friend, a parent!
  • Have open, honest dialogue with your children about the reality of bullying and that there is a law against it.
  • Encourage your children to bring their concerns to you immediately, not to wait, not to be afraid.
  • Get names of other children who have been bullied (your own children will probably be the best sources for this information, believe it or not). Kids see and hear a lot at the school and that makes them great sources of information. Contact the parents of other children who have been bullied or abused in your district. Get together to form an action committee. There’s power in numbers and the more people you have with similar experiences, the more credible your own case. This will become very important later at hearings or in court!
  • Document all incidents, conversations, contacts, etc. in a written record with dates, times, incendent description, names of those involved, names of those contacted, outcome (always with dates and times!).
  • Confront principals, administrators, superintendent, board of education immediately with your concerns. Don’t wait! They’ll use that against you! And do it in writing(not by e-mail), and what you expect to be done to fix the situation. The best way is a copy of the letter of notice or inquiry to each of the levels (principal, administrators, superintendent, BoE) with the copy to the superintent by certified mail, return receipt requested. Remember: Stick to the facts, admit nothing, don’t get emotional, assume you are always the victim! Don’t let them use anything against you later! Don’t believe any promises! Get it in writing!
  • Follow up on each of your inquiries or complaints by telephone call (note date, time, who spoken to, and substance of the call), and then with a written confirmation of the follow-up and brief details of the conversation. Send a copy to the other party and to the superintendent.
  • If you still don’t get a response. Contact the local police, make a complaint. Send a copy of the complaint to the Albany County District Attorney’s Office referring to the Dignity for All Students Act (DASA), send a copy to your Assemblyman and to your state Senator. Do this by regular mail, not by e-mail. You can follow up or confirm by e-mail and attach a scanned copy of the hard copy letter or complaint.
  • Contact the  New York State Bar Association Lawyer Referral and Information Service at 1 (800) 342-3661 lr@nysba.org for a referral to an attorney specializing in lawsuits against school districts, even specializing in cases under the Dignity for All Students Act (DASA). Under the law you are entitled to an initial free consultation with an attorney. If s/she decides to take the case, get him or her to provide you with a written letter of representation that states the approximate cost of the case in fees etc. and the approximate length of time s/he expects the case to take to resolution. Do not ask for promises that you will win; that’s unreasonable.
  • From that point on, let the attorney do his/her magic, but follow-up regularly, never trust or think that they’re on top of it, they’re probably not and will likely need some high-voltage prodding to get them to move their asses. Stay out of the way but stay informed!
  • Be  active! Be very active! It’s your children at risk, not theirs. Your children will thank you some day…or curse you if you’don’t act now!

Not on my lawn and
DEFINITELY NOT ON MY KIDS!
The Editor

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